For Women Only

Choose a Man Like Your Life Depends on It — Because It Does

Dating today can feel like a confusing, exhausting maze — especially for women who want love, family, and a future built on sound values. The truth is, no matter how fun or attractive someone may seem on the surface, the person you choose as a life partner will deeply impact your physical, emotional, financial, and even spiritual well-being.

And if you're considering children, the stakes rise even higher!

Women Must Be More Discerning — Not Less

In today’s dating culture, women are often told to “go with the flow,” “see where it goes,” or “don’t be so picky.” That’s dangerous advice! Women carry the weight of pregnancy, childbirth, and the majority of child-rearing. That is a biological and social reality. Which means: your choice of a partner must be careful, intentional, and rooted in more than just chemistry.

Love is simply not enough.

Ask the Hard Questions Early

When getting to know someone, you need to find out what really drives them. How were they raised? What kind of emotional, mental, or spiritual baggage are they carrying? How do they handle conflict? Are they respectful and honest in everyday life — not just when things are easy?

Ask a man about:

His upbringing

Was it abusive, neglectful, or unstable? That doesn't mean he's disqualified — but he must have done serious work to heal and grow. If he hasn’t, those wounds will show up in your relationship.

His moral values

Do they truly align with yours — or are you compromising your core beliefs just to avoid being alone?

His financial and career stability

Is he responsible with money? Can he support a family, emotionally and financially? Is he building a life — or waiting for someone to rescue him?

His intentions

Is he in it for love and for life? If not, get out right away! No more wasted years.

If You Were Abused or Neglected — Start There First

If you experienced abuse, neglect, or emotional abandonment as a child, it is crucial to get professional support before choosing a life partner! Unhealed trauma distorts your ability to see red flags, and damaged attachment systems can make unhealthy dynamics feel familiar — even “exciting.” The truth is: if you haven’t healed, your picker is likely broken. That’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to do the work to heal, grow, and learn to recognize real love — not chaos or control dressed up as passion.

A Prenuptial Agreement Is Non-Negotiable

If a man is serious about building a life with you, he will be equally serious about protecting both of you should things go wrong. A co-written, fair prenuptial agreement is not unromantic — it is responsible! It ensures that if the union ends, both parties are protected, clear about expectations, and able to part without destructive battles. If he refuses to discuss or sign one, walk away! Anyone who isn’t willing to plan for life’s realities is not ready for real partnership! Transparency, fairness, and future planning are all part of love.

Be Clear About Your Standards — Up Front

You don’t have to prove you're worthy of love by giving away your body, your time, your money, or your energy too soon. In fact, one of the most powerful things a woman can do is date without sex or alcohol. You get to see a man clearly when neither of you is under the influence of anything but real conversation.

You are not here to entertain men. You are not here to settle. You are not here to raise a grown man who never emotionally matured. You're here to find your husband — the real deal.

Tell the men you meet:“I’m looking for a husband, not a hookup. I don’t have sex with anyone unless I know I’ve met my match.”

This isn’t prudish — it’s practical and safe. It weeds out the selfish, the insincere, the emotionally unavailable and the dangerous instantly!

Yes, There Are Good Men — But There Are Also Dangerous Ones

There are many good, kind, dependable men in the world. But there are also cruel, manipulative, and twisted people who wear masks until it's too late. Women have to be exceptionally careful about who they let into their lives — and into their homes and bodies. Some men aren't looking for love — they’re looking for control. Or convenience. Or a place to hide. Or someone to support them. Don’t ignore these red flags. Don’t mother a man hoping he’ll grow up one day. Don’t sacrifice your future for someone who wouldn't do the same for you!

Final Thoughts

You are the prize! Don’t let loneliness, impatience, or societal pressure make your choices for you. Take your time. Date many men if you want — without sleeping or substances on a date with any of them. Let them reveal who they are when the masks are off. When you find the one who is kind, consistent, grown, and ready for real love and partnership — you’ll know! Until then, stay wise, stay grounded, and remember: The man you choose will shape your future. Choose him like your life — and your children’s lives — depend on it. Because they do!