Needs & Expectations

Healthy love begins with open and honest communication—about who we are, what we value, what we need, and our expectations in a love relationship.

At Destiny Matchmaking, we emphasize the importance of clear, respectful communication as a cornerstone of any meaningful romantic connection. One of the most powerful gifts couples can give each other is the courage to have open conversations about their personal needs, boundaries, and expectations—especially when it comes to intimacy and emotional safety.

Too often, people enter relationships assuming that their partner will “just know” what is acceptable or desirable. But love cannot thrive in ambiguity. We encourage every couple—no matter how new or long-standing their relationship may be—to talk openly about their emotional and physical boundaries, their comfort levels, and their hopes for a shared future. These conversations create mutual respect and help prevent harmful misunderstandings.

Many relationships are unfairly stressed by lack of clearly defining one's needs, expectations and boundaries. It is also crucial to speak openly about what is not acceptable. Abusive, degrading, or violent behaviours—whether verbal, emotional, or physical—have no place in a loving relationship.

Sadly, there is a disturbing rise in the normalization of abusive sexual practices such as choking, spitting, slapping, or hitting during intimate moments. These are not expressions of love, passion, or consent when one partner feels unsafe, degraded, or hurt. They are forms of abuse, and they must never be tolerated or excused.

True intimacy is built on trust, mutual care, and the willingness to listen and grow together. If a partner pressures, manipulates, or coerces another into any act that causes pain or emotional distress, that is not love—it is control and domination masquerading as desire. Everyone has the right to feel respected and protected in all areas of a relationship, including the bedroom.

At Destiny Matchmaking, we advocate for relationships where each person feels emotionally safe, deeply valued, and completely heard. We urge singles to be brave and honestly state their values, needs, expectations, boundaries and to choose partners who honour those values with integrity. And for couples already in a relationship, we encourage regular, open-hearted discussions to reaffirm what love means to each of you in and out of the bedroom.

Your needs matter. Your safety matters. Your voice matters.

If you are ready to find a loving, respectful relationship guided by clear communication and shared values, we are here to help. Visit www.destinymatchmaking.com to explore our memberships, relationship coaching, and resources for creating the healthy love you deserve.

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